Ego and Sex

Over the last week, I have realized something astounding that I want to share tonight, a surprising side effect of Ego’s having agreed to sit in the back seat of the car while Spirit drives. In short, I have become aware of sex at a completely new level. As much as I love touching my lover physically, emotionally and spiritually, I have realized how limiting sex is, that it imposes a huge cost on relationships, and when it is absent, relationships can accelerate.

If I were reading this, I would think the writer was completely bats, and my mind would imagine how many ways he could be weird or crazy or repressed or… That said, I invite you to join me on this short exploration: it might enable you to transform some of your relationships in surprising ways. Continue reading “Ego and Sex”

On Letting Go

I recently had an earnest discussion with a friend who is trying to let go of many things that aren’t working for her. After I’d shared how I’d accidentally discovered how to let go of many deep intense things in my life, she asked me how I’d done it, a very complicated question. My gut’s response will probably surprise you. (Incidentally, I’ve been helped, er pressured, to jettison many things as Pluto has transited my 12th house—loosely, unconscious baggage—but that’s not the focus here). I hope this post helps you, too. Continue reading “On Letting Go”

Why There Are So Few Cooks in America

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Sweet potato hash with bacon & onion

 

Last week, I released Drive to Trust’s Cohort One, which includes Teens Cook, a program to help organizations that help teens to cook their own food. In connection with Teens Cook, I’ve been conducting some ethnographic research on families, cooking, eating habits and food. After several hours of this, I noticed an astounding thing: although there are organizations and people who try to help teens and families improve their health by learning home cooking, they focus on recipes. And I’ll argue here that cooking with recipes is not really cooking because it omits the two most important parts of cooking: practicality and creativity. I hope that this short riff will help you discover the secret that’s hidden in plain view, that unlocks the true power of cooking for yourself and your loved ones—and loving it.

Cooking with recipes is not really cooking because it omits the two most important parts of cooking: practicality and creativity.

Continue reading “Why There Are So Few Cooks in America”

Do You Want Change in Your Life? Create a Vacuum!

VacuumIt is New Year’s Eve, so a natural time to think about what I’ve done this year, and what the new year might hold. 2017 has been a blockbuster year for me, and I note that the unequivocal answer to what I’ve done this year is that I have thrown away many things. Throwing away things is scary for me, but is so liberating! Here’s how I’ve done it and how you might be able to use the concept to create amazing change in your life. Continue reading “Do You Want Change in Your Life? Create a Vacuum!”

Unconscious and Dreams

I have learned that Unconscious can extend my awareness very far beyond Ego. I have learned so much from dream interpretation, and I am humbled by it.

I associate Ego most closely with my intellect and conscious mind, so I’m most aware of Ego. I became aware of Unconscious in stages, and I have found that Unconscious enriches my awareness and life incredibly. Continue reading “Unconscious and Dreams”