I am sad. A conversation with a dear friend has me reflecting on my relationship to emotion and how precious this relationship is to me. She has told me many times that she has difficulty processing emotion in herself and from others. Continue reading “Emotion”
Chiron was officially discovered in 1977, so its use in astrology is relatively new—and breakthrough. I have experienced its transformational power in my own life and observed it in clients’. To work with Chiron’s energy, to touch its magic, we need to suspend several cultural norms, so I will touch on these here after briefly describing “the Chironic Process,” which begins with an “innocent bystander” wound that one can transform into healing and gratitude. Continue reading “Chiron’s Wound and Healing Process”
Did you know that pain can diminish you, or add to you, and its effect is totally based on how you experience it?
How do you bear pain?
For me, if I experience pain from an Ego place, I feel anger or self pity (“Fuck you! Why me?”).
If I experience pain from Spirit, I feel gratitude (“Wow, I can feel this pain, but I need not take it personally; what can I learn?”).
In the first case, I feel that pain takes something from me. In the second, it adds to me.
This feels so weird to say, but I experience that pain I experience from a Spirit place is a kind of ecstasy (tears, sobs).
Yes, ‘tis true for me.
Why are sadness, pain, and ecstasy so close to each other?
I imagine it’s because pain comes from Ego, realizing that he really has no consequence, and joy comes from Spirit who rejoices in the wholeness and connection of all.
So, Ego is truly an illusion, a wonderful temporary illusion. So Ego is diminished in pain, but Spirit feels no pain because it is the whole. It knows pain doesn’t really exist.
So, experiencing them both, in stereo, is exquisite.
Over the last week, I have realized something astounding that I want to share tonight, a surprising side effect of Ego’s having agreed to sit in the back seat of the car while Spirit drives. In short, I have become aware of sex at a completely new level. As much as I love touching my lover physically, emotionally and spiritually, I have realized how limiting sex is, that it imposes a huge cost on relationships, and when it is absent, relationships can accelerate.
If I were reading this, I would think the writer was completely bats, and my mind would imagine how many ways he could be weird or crazy or repressed or… That said, I invite you to join me on this short exploration: it might enable you to transform some of your relationships in surprising ways. Continue reading “Ego and Sex”