Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2

Since writing Part 1, I have reverberating in my head that the love I experience now is completely different from the love I had experienced before my Dark Night journey, that love which resonates with popular love songs’ depiction of love. I find this difference to be surprising and simple, yet profound, so here I’ll contrast the two further. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2”

Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music

You may have noticed that the lion’s share of popular songs is about romantic love, whether rock, pop, folk, R&B, or other. For much of my life, I sang along with them, lamenting my own string of romantic windmills. The fact that I’d studied the development of romantic French literature and psychology did little to dissuade my own desire for the romantic ideal that pervades popular songs. The beloved is presented as an object to be adored, sought, kept, rejected, or hated, all too oft in that order. It’s a preoccupation of songwriters (and song buyers ;^), seemingly regardless of language or culture.

Then my Dark Night process changed everything. One of its surprising side effects has been a transformation of what I experienced as “love.” I love much more intensely than ever, but it’s a completely different thing than it was before, and here I’ll try to explain it in case it is helpful to you. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music”