How Valentine’s Day Ends up Killing Love

The way commercial cultures “celebrate” Valentine’s day ends up killing love, sweetly and surely. The good news is, we can prevent this by learning how the killing works and how we can disrupt it.

We begin by examining love—because love is quite different from what we grow up thinking it is. Read on for your guide to disrupting the 21st century Valentine’s day massacre that occurs every year. Continue reading “How Valentine’s Day Ends up Killing Love”

Decoding Quintiles [Astrological Aspects]

Did you know that every family of astrological aspects has a certain characteristic vibration and meaning?

I see them as colors: as every wavelength produces a distinct hue when interacting with light, each family of aspects has a vibration and meaning when it connects planets to each other (and angles). If you’d like to see how astrological aspects work, I wrote Aspects [Angles] for you!

I do extensive work with quintiles, the family of aspects that is based on dividing the circle into five, so multiples of 72 degrees. I have been studying and interpreting them for a few years now—in self-defense because I have eleven of them in my natal chart. I had to get to the bottom of that! Continue reading “Decoding Quintiles [Astrological Aspects]”

Joy and Ecstasy

I have a client who is in a very intense relationship, so I’m doing a composite chart to help her figure it out. Her relationship has her feeling the whole spectrum of emotions, and it reminds me of one of my own experiences. I am reflecting on joy and ecstasy, and I notice some things that surprise me—and may surprise you. Continue reading “Joy and Ecstasy”

Freedom from the Known/Jiddu Krishnamurti

freedomknownHave you ever read a book that feels so clear and familiar that its thoughts felt like your own? This is my experience of Freedom from the Known, which expresses thoughts and practices I have been developing for some time, but in a much more elegant, powerful and simple way than I could ever do. The small book is truly revolutionary, and I think you can use many of its suggestions to make profound change in your life.

Krishnamurti communicates so simply and cleanly that I think the book is accessible to anyone who is interested in confronting his/her ideas. At various points in the book, I felt myself objecting and creating mental friction, but that is about my reaction, not the book. Its ideas and observations are very clear to an open mind. If you are used to reading philosophy, it will probably be easy for you to grasp (although perhaps not easy to practice, at least it isn’t for me). Here, I’ll summarize each chapter before attaching my reflections at the end. I will also share how I am practicing some of the book’s suggestions.

If you are curious and feel mental resistance to the chapter summaries, try skipping to my interpretation and reflections where I’ll discuss how I think this works from a practical perspective and how I have been using the concepts. Continue reading “Freedom from the Known/Jiddu Krishnamurti”

Unpacking the Hidden Power of Curiosity

I have learned that being curious is one of the most powerful and overlooked forces that a person can have, at least I have noticed how it makes a huge difference in my life. It enables me to learn, to change, and to be present in my earthly and spirit lives. I have also noticed that curiosity increases intimacy in relationships because, along with observation, curiosity enables learning.

Most interesting of all is that anyone can increase his/her curiosity by following a few practices as I shall outline here. You can improve your relationships with people and groups of people, and your ability to learn new things. Continue reading “Unpacking the Hidden Power of Curiosity”

Reframing the “Good” and “Bad” of Daily Life

This Spirit/Body series on living earthly and spirit channels while incarnated has been pretty abstract thus far, and today I’m pleased to get down to some day-to-day practicality! You may appreciate this post more if you check out its progenitors, The Body as Avatar and On Being Incarnate. The big idea in this series is that one can live more fully by experiencing one’s incarnated life on two levels, the body and the spirit. I am learning how to do this, and I’m sharing my insights in case they give you some ideas to create your life with more purpose. Continue reading “Reframing the “Good” and “Bad” of Daily Life”

Why There Are So Few Cooks in America

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Sweet potato hash with bacon & onion

 

Last week, I released Drive to Trust’s Cohort One, which includes Teens Cook, a program to help organizations that help teens to cook their own food. In connection with Teens Cook, I’ve been conducting some ethnographic research on families, cooking, eating habits and food. After several hours of this, I noticed an astounding thing: although there are organizations and people who try to help teens and families improve their health by learning home cooking, they focus on recipes. And I’ll argue here that cooking with recipes is not really cooking because it omits the two most important parts of cooking: practicality and creativity. I hope that this short riff will help you discover the secret that’s hidden in plain view, that unlocks the true power of cooking for yourself and your loved ones—and loving it.

Cooking with recipes is not really cooking because it omits the two most important parts of cooking: practicality and creativity.

Continue reading “Why There Are So Few Cooks in America”

Reversing the Tragedy of the Commons

The Tragedy of the CommonsTop of mind for me most days is the Tragedy of the Commons, because I see it everywhere.

I perceive that the United States as a country tends to emphasize individuals more than the collective. Moreover, the ebbing importance of local community diminishes the sense of shared destiny in which community members feel that “we’re in this together.” Continue reading “Reversing the Tragedy of the Commons”