Ego and Sex

Over the last week, I have realized something astounding that I want to share tonight, a surprising side effect of Ego’s having agreed to sit in the back seat of the car while Spirit drives. In short, I have become aware of sex at a completely new level. As much as I love touching my lover physically, emotionally and spiritually, I have realized how limiting sex is, that it imposes a huge cost on relationships, and when it is absent, relationships can accelerate.

If I were reading this, I would think the writer was completely bats, and my mind would imagine how many ways he could be weird or crazy or repressed or… That said, I invite you to join me on this short exploration: it might enable you to transform some of your relationships in surprising ways. Continue reading “Ego and Sex”

Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2

Since writing Part 1, I have reverberating in my head that the love I experience now is completely different from the love I had experienced before my Dark Night journey, that love which resonates with popular love songs’ depiction of love. I find this difference to be surprising and simple, yet profound, so here I’ll contrast the two further. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2”

Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music

You may have noticed that the lion’s share of popular songs is about romantic love, whether rock, pop, folk, R&B, or other. For much of my life, I sang along with them, lamenting my own string of romantic windmills. The fact that I’d studied the development of romantic French literature and psychology did little to dissuade my own desire for the romantic ideal that pervades popular songs. The beloved is presented as an object to be adored, sought, kept, rejected, or hated, all too oft in that order. It’s a preoccupation of songwriters (and song buyers ;^), seemingly regardless of language or culture.

Then my Dark Night process changed everything. One of its surprising side effects has been a transformation of what I experienced as “love.” I love much more intensely than ever, but it’s a completely different thing than it was before, and here I’ll try to explain it in case it is helpful to you. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music”

Spiritual Reflections on Two Classic Sci-fi Films

Quest for Fire and The Matrix are both classic sci-fi films about survival within adversity, but I found that their parallels were eclipsed by striking differences. Moreover these differences hold insights into the importance of humans’ relationship to nature and the universe (or god) and its effect on human survival. I’ll reflect on each film first and add my observations and spiritual reflections at the end. Continue reading “Spiritual Reflections on Two Classic Sci-fi Films”

Freedom from the Known/Jiddu Krishnamurti

freedomknownHave you ever read a book that feels so clear and familiar that its thoughts felt like your own? This is my experience of Freedom from the Known, which expresses thoughts and practices I have been developing for some time, but in a much more elegant, powerful and simple way than I could ever do. The small book is truly revolutionary, and I think you can use many of its suggestions to make profound change in your life.

Krishnamurti communicates so simply and cleanly that I think the book is accessible to anyone who is interested in confronting his/her ideas. At various points in the book, I felt myself objecting and creating mental friction, but that is about my reaction, not the book. Its ideas and observations are very clear to an open mind. If you are used to reading philosophy, it will probably be easy for you to grasp (although perhaps not easy to practice, at least it isn’t for me). Here, I’ll summarize each chapter before attaching my reflections at the end. I will also share how I am practicing some of the book’s suggestions.

If you are curious and feel mental resistance to the chapter summaries, try skipping to my interpretation and reflections where I’ll discuss how I think this works from a practical perspective and how I have been using the concepts. Continue reading “Freedom from the Known/Jiddu Krishnamurti”

Did You Know That You Are an Artist?

It is dawn, and I am starting to create my experience of this day. Did you know that we all do this, every day, although most of us are not aware of it? In this post, I’ll share how I create “a day,” and how you can use some of the ideas to create your day more mindfully, so you can experience more joy, harmony, or whatever you want.

How was your day?

We all ask each other this all the time, and in it is nested an interesting truth. First, isn’t it idiotic to suggest that you or I “have” a day? It isn’t when we consider that we don’t have the day, but we do have our experience of the day. I have little control over external events and interactions that happen during my day, but I have absolute control over how I experience what happens to me and around me. Continue reading “Did You Know That You Are an Artist?”

On Letting Go

I recently had an earnest discussion with a friend who is trying to let go of many things that aren’t working for her. After I’d shared how I’d accidentally discovered how to let go of many deep intense things in my life, she asked me how I’d done it, a very complicated question. My gut’s response will probably surprise you. (Incidentally, I’ve been helped, er pressured, to jettison many things as Pluto has transited my 12th house—loosely, unconscious baggage—but that’s not the focus here). I hope this post helps you, too. Continue reading “On Letting Go”

Unpacking the Hidden Power of Curiosity

I have learned that being curious is one of the most powerful and overlooked forces that a person can have, at least I have noticed how it makes a huge difference in my life. It enables me to learn, to change, and to be present in my earthly and spirit lives. I have also noticed that curiosity increases intimacy in relationships because, along with observation, curiosity enables learning.

Most interesting of all is that anyone can increase his/her curiosity by following a few practices as I shall outline here. You can improve your relationships with people and groups of people, and your ability to learn new things. Continue reading “Unpacking the Hidden Power of Curiosity”

Ego and Spirit in Relationship: The Four Agreements

4agreementsThis post offers some insights and practices for how ego and spirit can work together to empower you in relationship to your self and, by extension, to other people and the universe. These practices have helped me to create immense freedom for myself, and I give this freedom to other people, which creates joy and more harmony in the world. This series extends Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, which I’ll summarize here and build on.

The Four Agreements is a kind of handbook of ancient Toltec wisdom, and I highly recommend it. If you haven’t read it, Toltec Spirit has an excellent summary. I find that the book offers a rare approach to relating to oneself and other people through the four agreements, which are practices that help readers live with more spirit. Ruiz doesn’t refer to ego and spirit, but his stated goal is to help readers live with spirit, to take back what they lost during “domestication.” The four agreements are: Continue reading “Ego and Spirit in Relationship: The Four Agreements”

Reframing the “Good” and “Bad” of Daily Life

This Spirit/Body series on living earthly and spirit channels while incarnated has been pretty abstract thus far, and today I’m pleased to get down to some day-to-day practicality! You may appreciate this post more if you check out its progenitors, The Body as Avatar and On Being Incarnate. The big idea in this series is that one can live more fully by experiencing one’s incarnated life on two levels, the body and the spirit. I am learning how to do this, and I’m sharing my insights in case they give you some ideas to create your life with more purpose. Continue reading “Reframing the “Good” and “Bad” of Daily Life”