When Is a Relationship Worthwhile?

Recently I have been reflecting on relationships I have had, and I realize that I have developed an unusual way to think about relationship when compared to my friends and clients, so I’ll share it here in case it helps you with your relationships, too.

What Is Relationship?

Have you asked yourself this question recently? Anyone can look up the word for its dictionary meaning, but have you thought about its meaning in terms of your self? Of course, your answer will be different from mine or anyone else’s.

To me, relationship refers to the act of relating, consistently and relatively intensely. And relating refers to one person interacting with three other people: who he perceives the other to be, who the other perceives herself to be, and the other as a more objective “god” would perceive it. The same is true of the other person relating to three of me. Continue reading “When Is a Relationship Worthwhile?”

What Is “Love?”

Tonight I am thinking about relationships I have had, and I will share a few things that I have learned about what most of us call “love.” As I’ve written before, English is poor in words about love; in Greek, there are many distinct words that translate to “love” in English. Tonight, I am thinking about 7th house relationships, “I—Thou” exclusive relationships in which one has an intimate dance with “the other” and learns about oneself in the process.

Even more interestingly perhaps, I’ll share how doing charts has enabled me to discover a new way to think about relationships and love. Continue reading “What Is “Love?””

The Six People in Every Couple

Recently I was talking through many years of a long relationship with a partner, and I experienced one of those “obvious truths” that got more profound the more I thought about it, so I’ll share it here in case it helps you in your close relationships.

Did you know that there are six people in every couple?

When you become acquainted with these six people, you and your partner can transform your relationship. Knowing these six may also help you repair a relationship that’s going south; in any case, it will strengthen any relationship because it will free you both from relationship traps that probably ensnare you now. Continue reading “The Six People in Every Couple”

Relationship (Updated)

Tonight I’m feeling the magic of relationship in a spiritual way, and in a love way, and I shot this picture because I saw it on my table, and it captured what I feel. Let me take you on a little voyage because I have discovered some things that may help you take your relationships, with your partner, children, parents, coworkers, and enemies to a transcendental level.

Look at how the two are different but connected, Yin and Yang. Balanced. I think they are exquisite together.

Continue reading “Relationship (Updated)”