Uranus is retrograding into its second opposition to my natal Neptune while Venus is also transiting the latter, and this has me thinking about love and relationship in an ethereal way. In case interesting, all these posts start with an idea that I follow: like you, I don’t know where they will lead. Let’s find out! Continue reading “Love and Sex: Loving Woman and Man”
It has never been so clear to me as it is tonight that conflict in intimate relationships indicates that Ego is active. I have learned that Ego need not run my life although he prefers to and is indefatigable. Here’s a very Neptunian riff on what I mean. Continue reading “Love, Ego, and Harmony”
Tonight I am thinking about relationships I have had, and I will share a few things that I have learned about what most of us call “love.” As I’ve written before, English is poor in words about love; in Greek, there are many distinct words that translate to “love” in English. Tonight, I am thinking about 7th house relationships, “I—Thou” exclusive relationships in which one has an intimate dance with “the other” and learns about oneself in the process.
Even more interestingly perhaps, I’ll share how doing charts has enabled me to discover a new way to think about relationships and love. Continue reading “What Is “Love?””
Recently I was talking through many years of a long relationship with a partner, and I experienced one of those “obvious truths” that got more profound the more I thought about it, so I’ll share it here in case it helps you in your close relationships.
Did you know that there are six people in every couple?
When you become acquainted with these six people, you and your partner can transform your relationship. Knowing these six may also help you repair a relationship that’s going south; in any case, it will strengthen any relationship because it will free you both from relationship traps that probably ensnare you now. Continue reading “The Six People in Every Couple”
The way commercial cultures “celebrate” Valentine’s day ends up killing love, sweetly and surely. The good news is, we can prevent this by learning how the killing works and how we can disrupt it.
We begin by examining love—because love is quite different from what we grow up thinking it is. Read on for your guide to disrupting the 21st century Valentine’s day massacre that occurs every year. Continue reading “How Valentine’s Day Ends up Killing Love”
I have a client who is in a very intense relationship, so I’m doing a composite chart to help her figure it out. Her relationship has her feeling the whole spectrum of emotions, and it reminds me of one of my own experiences. I am reflecting on joy and ecstasy, and I notice some things that surprise me—and may surprise you. Continue reading “Joy and Ecstasy”
Tonight I’m feeling the magic of relationship in a spiritual way, and in a love way, and I shot this picture because I saw it on my table, and it captured what I feel. Let me take you on a little voyage because I have discovered some things that may help you take your relationships, with your partner, children, parents, coworkers, and enemies to a transcendental level.
Look at how the two are different but connected, Yin and Yang. Balanced. I think they are exquisite together.
Since writing Part 1, I have reverberating in my head that the love I experience now is completely different from the love I had experienced before my Dark Night journey, that love which resonates with popular love songs’ depiction of love. I find this difference to be surprising and simple, yet profound, so here I’ll contrast the two further. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2”
You may have noticed that the lion’s share of popular songs is about romantic love, whether rock, pop, folk, R&B, or other. For much of my life, I sang along with them, lamenting my own string of romantic windmills. The fact that I’d studied the development of romantic French literature and psychology did little to dissuade my own desire for the romantic ideal that pervades popular songs. The beloved is presented as an object to be adored, sought, kept, rejected, or hated, all too oft in that order. It’s a preoccupation of songwriters (and song buyers ;^), seemingly regardless of language or culture.
Then my Dark Night process changed everything. One of its surprising side effects has been a transformation of what I experienced as “love.” I love much more intensely than ever, but it’s a completely different thing than it was before, and here I’ll try to explain it in case it is helpful to you. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music”
I think of my and others’ earthly identities as “clothes” for their spirits, vehicles for navigating their lives on Earth. Spirits are incarnate in their bodies, and here I’ll show how this point of view enables me to interact with people more fully. Then I’ll share suggestions for how you can try this, too. Continue reading “A Simple Way to Transform Your Relationships”