How Valentine’s Day Ends up Killing Love

The way commercial cultures “celebrate” Valentine’s day ends up killing love, sweetly and surely. The good news is, we can prevent this by learning how the killing works and how we can disrupt it.

We begin by examining love—because love is quite different from what we grow up thinking it is. Read on for your guide to disrupting the 21st century Valentine’s day massacre that occurs every year. Continue reading “How Valentine’s Day Ends up Killing Love”

Joy and Ecstasy

I have a client who is in a very intense relationship, so I’m doing a composite chart to help her figure it out. Her relationship has her feeling the whole spectrum of emotions, and it reminds me of one of my own experiences. I am reflecting on joy and ecstasy, and I notice some things that surprise me—and may surprise you. Continue reading “Joy and Ecstasy”

Relationship (Updated)

Tonight I’m feeling the magic of relationship in a spiritual way, and in a love way, and I shot this picture because I saw it on my table, and it captured what I feel. Let me take you on a little voyage because I have discovered some things that may help you take your relationships, with your partner, children, parents, coworkers, and enemies to a transcendental level.

Look at how the two are different but connected, Yin and Yang. Balanced. I think they are exquisite together.

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Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2

Since writing Part 1, I have reverberating in my head that the love I experience now is completely different from the love I had experienced before my Dark Night journey, that love which resonates with popular love songs’ depiction of love. I find this difference to be surprising and simple, yet profound, so here I’ll contrast the two further. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music Part 2”

Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music

You may have noticed that the lion’s share of popular songs is about romantic love, whether rock, pop, folk, R&B, or other. For much of my life, I sang along with them, lamenting my own string of romantic windmills. The fact that I’d studied the development of romantic French literature and psychology did little to dissuade my own desire for the romantic ideal that pervades popular songs. The beloved is presented as an object to be adored, sought, kept, rejected, or hated, all too oft in that order. It’s a preoccupation of songwriters (and song buyers ;^), seemingly regardless of language or culture.

Then my Dark Night process changed everything. One of its surprising side effects has been a transformation of what I experienced as “love.” I love much more intensely than ever, but it’s a completely different thing than it was before, and here I’ll try to explain it in case it is helpful to you. Continue reading “Why I Rarely Listen to Popular Music”

A Simple Way to Transform Your Relationships

I think of my and others’ earthly identities as “clothes” for their spirits, vehicles for navigating their lives on Earth. Spirits are incarnate in their bodies, and here I’ll show how this point of view enables me to interact with people more fully. Then I’ll share suggestions for how you can try this, too. Continue reading “A Simple Way to Transform Your Relationships”

Trusting People to Be True to Themselves

Trust and Relationship
Many people are talking about trust in business these days. I am, too, because it’s the core of my business and my personal life. It just occurred to me that there are often some accidental gotchas within many trust discussions I read, and I’ll explore them in case that’s useful to you. First, I’ll delve into trust a little before sharing some insights on how you can make it actionable in your personal, career, and business relationships. Continue reading “Trusting People to Be True to Themselves”